LOVE & HAPPINESS

Love: An Obstacle or a Catalyst?

“Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit.” — Khalil
Gibran.
Love is the most beautiful feeling in the world.
The bhakti saint Kabir said,
“Reading books upon books, everyone died
and none became wise.
Four letters: love.
Read those and be wise.”

In my personal view, there is nothing wrong in it — any relation which
is based on love provides us with a positive outlook towards life. The
feeling that ‘we have someone with us’ all the time does not give us
the feeling of loneliness. If we face any kind of failure or
disappointment in life, then we know that we have somebody to
share it with. Victory or failure, happiness or sorrow, pleasure or
pain, it is a great feeling when we have someone always standing
with us.
However, when it comes to falling in love and staying in a
relationship, we have to be careful about a few things. Before I
explain what I mean by this, it is important for you to understand that
whatever I am saying holds true in this specific context- You are a
student or you are preparing for an important examination and your
future depends on it or You are going through an extremely crucial
phase of your academic career or you are striving hard to achieve
your goal, whatever it maybe.

What is the biggest joy or happiness in life?

In my personal opinion, apart from having a healthy body, the
biggest happiness in life is to stand on one’s own feet and be self-
sufficient. You should be capable of taking care of yourself and look
after the needs of your family.

There is no joy bigger than this,
because if a person is not self-dependent, if he does not earn his
own food then all other pleasures do not matter to him. And the
greatest joy in life is to see those you love, happy. For example,
many of you must be healthy, many of you must be blessed with
great parents and a fantastic bunch of friends. But do any of these
lessen the pain of being unemployed? There is this saying, “Good
things happen when you set your priorities straight.” Ask yourself:

What is your priority? Are you trying to accomplish the important
things? Mahatma Gandhi said, “Action expresses priorities.” Are you
acting in your desired way? What is it that you desire for NOW-
success, employment or falling in love? The American jurist Dallin H.
Oaks said, “Desires dictate our priorities, priorities shape our
choices, and choices determine our actions

You do not have to think that you will be all alone without a partner,
and even if you feel a bit lonely, remember that it is temporary and
you have to make little sacrifices for your career. You have to
remember that the history of this world is the history of very few
people.

If you observe keenly, you would see that, whoever has
created history or has been able to record his name in history books,
has always been able to conquer his own loneliness. Loneliness and
solitude can be your greatest friend if you know how to use it.

your childhood till your youth you have always been surrounded by
people, first in school, and then in college and university. You could
never understand the meaning of a solitude life. Being secluded
helps you to develop your personality, and makes you mentally
strong. When you are always surrounded by people, you are never
able to identify yourself.

You get away from your inner self and fail to
recognize and hear the voice within you. You are not able to
understand the real meaning of happiness because you are always
surrounded by people and noise. You think that keeping the mind
busy is the only way to happiness. You have to brace yourself for
loneliness and you have to let go of the fear of loneliness. This
loneliness which comes to you when you focus on your career, won’t
kill you.

When you actually focus on your studies you will find that
you are no longer feeling lonely. If you are in a relationship during
your preparation stages, you are taking a very big risk. Unfortunately,
if you encounter a break up, your mental state goes for a toss and all
your preparations gets derailed.

The uncertainty about getting
married to your chosen partner can also disturb you. It is also
possible that your partner gets ahead in life and you remain stuck
where you are, this will also affect your mental state. However, in
this scenario it is both uncharacteristic and foolish to expect that your
partner will wait for you.